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Date of last update (somewhere) on this page: November 10, 2008

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** My Personal Stats ** Activities, Hobbies, and Personal Life ** My Boot and Leather Life ** Boots


My Stats

  • Height:   5' 10" (1.78 meters).
  • Weight:   Bearish but hugable.
  • Eye color:   My eyes change color -- pale green when happy, light blue when calm, hazel when sad, bloodshot dull grey when tired.
  • Hair:   Short, buzzed. Blond - grey. I usually have a ball cap, motorcycle helmet, or Muir cap on my head.
  • Facial hair:   Moustache.
  • Age:   Old enough to know, but not old enough to know better. (Graduated high school in 1975; you do the math).
  • Ethnicity:   While I don’t look it, I am half Italian, one-quarter Choctaw (Native American), and one quarter what the cat dragged in. Actually, my sister had me believing for years that my father was the guy who delivered milk to our home at the time I was conceived. Our milkman always wore boots, and was tall, blond, and quite a stud (smile).
  • Sex:   Yes.
  • Sexuality:   (do you have to ask?) Gay.
  • How out:   Don’t wear a sign, but everyone who is important in my life knows.
  • HIV Status:   Negative, and my partner is, too. We keep it that way because we're monogamous and don't fool around with other men or use drugs.
  • Mannerisms:   Masculine, Biker, Bootman, Leatherman, Cowboy, Professional, but not Yuppie.
  • Personality:   extroverted, happy, joyful, outgoing, friendly, helper. Romantic, cuddler, kisser. Sometimes too serious, occasionally funny, oddball sense of humor. Thoughtful, caring, kind, loyal (but I’m not a Boy Scout).
  • Education:   Several undergraduate degrees and post graduate studies.
  • Politics:   Politically active bleeding-heart liberal Democrat.
  • Languages:   English, Italian, Latin-American Spanish, Latin (as in Caesar), Modern Greek, Ancient Greek (as in Homer), and bits and pieces of German, French, Romanian, and about a dozen other languages. I also speak Aussie, having spent a lot of time Down Under.
  • Location:   Greater suburbia of Silver Spring, Maryland, USA, north and west of Washington, DC.
  • Occupation:   Emergency Manager. I am a communications professional, writer, author, and public speaker. I also dabble in home remodeling and construction trades (licensed electrician).
  • Relationship status:   Partnered, monogamous.
  • Looking for:   new friends who share similar interests.
  • Instant Messenger (IM) address or IM name:   I do not use instant messaging software or systems. It's blocked where I work. Read about my activities below... I just don't have the time for IM chats when I am home. I will exchange email when I have time.
  • Cell phone: Are you kidding? The most annoying device ever invented to make rich companies richer. No thanks.

  • Foot (boot) size:   (U.S.) Men's 10D (UK 9, European 44).
  • Calf size:   About 16.5 inches (42cm) for tall boots.
  • Piercings, tatoos:   None, not even my ear lobes. I hate needles.
  • Jewelry:   None. I just don't like stuff dangling off my body. I don't even wear a watch.
  • Drink:   As a kidney donor and being partially Native American, I have such a low tolerance of alcohol that even a half of a beer puts me to sleep. Therefore, I don't drink -- but I don't have any problems if others do. Just not me.
  • Drugs:   Only as prescribed by a physician.
  • Semi-legal party drugs:   No. I can enjoy life just fine without chemicals.
  • Smoke:   Marlboro Reds sometimes. I don't like cigars.
  • Q. What are your partner's stats?

    A. Check the partner's page on this website.

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    Activities, Hobbies, and Personal Life

    My activities and hobbies outside of working in full-time management position at a major non-government organization in Washington, DC, include:

  • Public service: serve in a non-compensated elected position dealing with community planning, zoning, transportation, and related issues.
  • Volunteer community leader: I am a leader and involved in several non-profit groups serving homeowners and residents in the county where I live, and in my state.
  • Motorcycling: I ride a Harley-Davidson motorcycle and like to ride in groups.
  • Helping others: frequently help out elderly family and neighbors in a nearby retirement community.
  • Politics: Served as webmaster for local political candidates, and have supported campaigns for other state and local elected officials. Amateur lobbyist at the state level for promotion of fair and equal treatment for the LGBT community, civil rights, appropriate motorcycle safety laws (including retaining a helmet law), banning use of cell phones and texting while operating a motor vehicle, and other issues.
  • Gardening/landscaping: keeping up the grounds of our wooded landscape.
  • Cooking: I love to bake and cook, Italian being a specialty. I eat out only when I travel.
  • Website building: if you have explored my website, you’re seeing my work.
  • Travel: I have traveled to six continents, 56 countries, every state, territory, and commonwealth of the U.S. (including those in the Atlantic and Pacific Oceans), as well as every province and territory of Canada. (Always in boots!) I don't travel much these days.
  • Construction: good at carpentry and have an electrician's license. I have remodeled older homes, built 1/3 of the house we live in, and finished our basement.
  • Q. What brings you joy and happiness and for which you are thankful?

    A. Click here to find out.

    Q. Why don’t you use your real name on this website or on postings on the Internet?

    A. Because if you use a search engine to look up my real name, you’ll find a lot of my professional life. I don’t want my professional life and personal life to be mixed up.

    Q. Where do you and your partner hang out?

    A. In our garden and back yard, on the deck, in the basement recreation room, and especially in our kitchen where I love to bake. That is, we are real home-bodies, and don't go out (except that I attend numerous community meetings.) We are very early-to-bed, early-to-rise kinda guys, so that also precludes visits to bars and other nightspots, especially during the week.

    Q. When and where did you meet your partner?

    A. At the March on Washington, April 25, 1993. He lived in Virginia at the time, while I have always lived in Maryland. We had both joined a club and met through them. I liberated him from the repressive Commonwealth of Virginia when we built our home in The Free State of Maryland in 1998 and have lived together since.

    Q. What activities do you do when you are wearing Cowboy Boots?

    A. Going about daily life (going to work/meetings, etc.)

    Q. Besides riding a motorcycle, what activities do you do when you are wearing Motorcycle Boots?

    A. Mow the lawn; building/construction; wearing leather; playing.

    Q. Playing?

    A. Sometimes I have gotten a pair of boots real muddy and then cleaned them up a little.

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    My Boot an Leather Life

    Q. Are you a Cowboy, Bootman, Leatherman, or a Bear?

    A. Does it have to be "either/or"? I do not identify with any particular gay subculture. I have a few characteristics of these subcultures, but that's more by serendipity than by design.

    Q. What to you compose the qualities of a Leatherman?

    A. This is different for different men. For me, I wear my leather for real, regularly. I don't just pose for a once-a-year event. I wear my leather around home and around my community during fall, winter, and spring.

    Q. Do you mentor other Bootmen and emerging Leathermen?

    A. I’m happy to give advice on request, such as in my Complete Guide to Leather Gear. I will answer legitimate questions by email. Send me a message. I won’t bite. I've "been there, done that" and perhaps I can share some of my experience to help you.

    Q. Are you into uniforms?

    A. I have a few uniforms or what looks like a uniform that I like to wear from time to time.

    Q. Do the red stripes on your breeches, chaps, and leather shirts reflect the flag you fly as a leatherman?

    A. No. I really just like the color combination of red and black with leather. According to "The Canonical Hanky Code," red means "fisting," I am definitely not into that.

    Q. I see you have cop uniforms -- do you get into the role of playing cop?

    A. I like the look of a cop uniform, particularly how the boots go with the uniform. But that's it. I don't role play, nor impersonate. I work with many cops in my local community, and especially appreciate and value their service. I don't pretend to be one, though.

    Q. Are you a Top or a Bottom?

    A. Top.

    Q. Is your partner a bottom, then?

    A. Nope... two Top Men can enjoy each other just fine, thanks.

    Q. Do you and your partner play with other men?

    A. No. Been there, done that, my partner and I didn't enjoy it.

    Q. Not even if someone only wants to service your boots?

    A. No. I realize my human frailties, and don't want to have any temptation at all to stray. I will not betray the endearing and enduring trust of my partner.

    Q. Do you do videos on request, like "boots on pedals"?

    A. I may consider requests, but can only do videos when I have time (which is rare), and when my partner isn't around (since he considers videos "stupid.") I can only do videos that I can shoot by myself. I have no friends who live near me who are into boots/leather, so no one else is available to help with videos. Thus, I can't do the "boots on pedals" thing, or any videos that require someone else to help or be involved with. Won't happen.

    Q. Wouldn't you like to trample on someone and enjoy a good bootlicking to a spitshine?

    A. Ummm... no. I really am monogamous and even that kind of play isn't something I do... and trampling is not something I would enjoying doing to someone else, or have done to me. It may get the other guy off, but it really bothers me to even be around that type of action. If it occurs where I happen to be, I leave.

    Q. Do you get into BDSM (bondage, discipline, flogging, etc.)?

    A. No! I'm not into pain, causing pain, doing things that look like they may be painful, or role-plays. I understand some Leathermen enjoy that. I don't. I give and ask for mutual respect.

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    Boots

    Q. How do you know you're a True Bootman?

    A. While I didn't write it, the statements about knowing if you're a True Bootman found on the Hot Boots website almost all are exactly what I would say, too!

    Q. Have you ever worn shoes?

    A. Maybe as a little kid, but not since age 10+

    Q. Not even sneakers? What do you wear to the gym?

    A. Nope. And pay for a gym membership? Ya gotta be kiddin! (Actually, I try to go swimming about once a week at the University where I enjoy lifetime usage of their recreation facilities.)

    Q. You mean to tell me that you wear boots even to weddings, funerals, and other formal occassions?

    A. I was booted in a tux as Best Man in my brother's formal wedding, and I’ve even attended receptions at embassies and the White House in my dress Cowboy Boots.

    Q. Do people ever say anything about your wearing boots all the time?

    A. Nobody knows me to wear anything different, and they probably would faint if they saw me in anything BUT boots.

    Q. What would you would wear if you took visitors on a walking tour of Washington, DC?

    A. While my scuzzy old Harley-Davidson Harness Boots are the most comfortable boots I own, they’re really rather ugly so I would wear my Station Boots or Chippewa Firefighter Boots which are very comfortable and good lookin’, too, if I know I have to walk a lot.

    Q. What do you wear when you do work around the house?

    A. My H-D Harness Boots or my Station Boots which were inexpensive and I don't mind abusing them.

    Q. Don’t your feet get tired?

    A. Sometimes... in boots made more for show than for comfort. I sometimes change boots four or five times day, depending on where I am going, what I will be doing, and the method of transportation I choose to use (my Harley, 4-wheeled vehicle, walking, or getting a ride with someone else.) Good quality boot socks also help a lot!

    Q. What are your favorite boots?

    A. With leather, my current faves are my H-D Police Enforcer Boots which are super comfortable and cool. I've also taken a liking to my Chippewa Firefighter Boots, especially during wet, yucky weather. For work, I wear a variety of cowboy boots.

    Q. Do you have other favorite boots?

    A. Yes... and that changes with the seasons and some rediscovery of the boots in my collection. I like Cowboy Boots with exotic skins, like snake and alligator, and that have contrasting colors to blue jeans. I also wear Biker boots a lot.

    Q. I don't see any rubber boots or rubber gear in your collection. Why not?

    A. Rubber boots or gear don't do anything for me except make me sweat. I don't like that feeling, so I don't have any. Just not for me.

    Q. Do you have any latex, lycra, or spandex gear?

    A. Nope. Definitely not for me.

    Q. Do you have any women's boots?

    A. No. I am a masculine man. The boots in my collection are my own and for me to wear or share with my partner. I do not find women's boots interesting at all.

    Q. Do you prefer lace-up or pull-on boots?

    A. Generally, I prefer pull-on boots because I don't have much patience with the time required to lace boots properly. Since I didn't learn how to tie shoes until I was 13, that was another reason why I wore boots since about age 10... no tying required!

    Q. Do you wear boots without socks?

    A. I always wear socks. I can't stand the feeling of sweaty feet. Plus, my boots go on and come off so much more easily when I'm wearing socks.

    Q. I don’t see any crotch-high boots in your collection. Why not?

    A. I once had a pair of 32" Wesco Big Boss Boots, but gave them away to a friend. I find boots above the knee to be hot and impractical. Personally, I don't like them (on me; this isn't about other guys.)

    Q. When you Cowboy Up, do you wear jeans inside or outside of your boots?

    A. Jeans over the boots. In American culture, jeans are very rarely worn inside boots, but occasionally I might wear jeans inside my boots around home.

    Q. What boots do you wear when you ride your motorcycle?

    A. If I will be going on a long motorcycle ride, I've found my Chippewa Firefighter Boots are great! If I want to wear taller boots with jeans tucked in, I like to wear oil-tanned Chippewa Engineer Boots or Black or Brown Wesco harness boots, or my Wesco Motor Patrol boots. If I will be riding with like-minded Boot/Leather Buddies in full gear, I wear whatever tall, black boots fit best outside my leathers, including H-D Police Enforcer Boots, Chippewa Hi-Shine Engineer Boots, Wesco Harness Boots, and, of course, my Dehners (which I like to wear with uniform breeches). Whatever fits the mood, look, style, and image of the day.

    Q. What are your oldest boots that you still wear?

    A. I still have about a dozen pairs of my Frye Boots from high school days. One pair of Banana Campus Fryes is very well-worn but they still fit, and sound good too.

    Q. What are your newest boots?

    A. Being a Bootman, I tend to get new boots rather often. When I get new boots, I mention them on my What's New Page on this website when I have pics of them.

    Q. What boots have you been most disappointed with?

    A. Boots that won't stop squeaking, or whose size says one thing but become something else. I sold a pair from Champion Attitude that looked really hot, but just didn’t fit. I also really don’t like boots that have man-made shaft material. It feels like it is plastic, is hot, and sometimes has loose threads or material that causes something inside the shaft to rub on a part of my calf, causing sores. So I don’t wear Acme Boots any more. They’re crap.

    Q. What do you do about squeaking boots?

    A. Inject silicone like WD-40 with a syringe, as well as apply Lexol leather conditioner along the part of the boot where the leather is stitched to the sole. If the squeak is in the heel, I have a cobbler replace the heels.

    Q. What have you done in your boots?

    A. Mostly just walk in them and ride horses or iron horses while wearing them.

    Q. Have you worn boots 24/7?

    A. I've tried, but I have this problem with sweaty extremeties, and when my feet sweat, the discomfort I feel keeps me awake. I can't sleep while wearing boots.

    Q. Would you like to wear boots 24/7?

    A. Not really.

    Q. Were boots a factor in your early years as you were identifying as Gay?

    A. No, not really. Boots are not sexual fetish objects to me. They are simply functional footwear.

    Q. What boots do you have your eye on?

    A. Tall Black Motorcycle Cop Boots on real bike cops in uniform always catch my eye. And I don't pass up noticing guys in cowboy boots, either. (Especially if the guy is in tight Wranglers!)

    Q. What boots would you like to get that you don’t already have?

    A. Hard to say ... I think I've gotten pretty much everything I have wanted and will wear, but I keep my eyes open. I can't turn down a good pair of boots (new or used) if the style, color, composition, height, manufacturer, etc., attract my attention and doesn't duplicate something I have already.

    Q. How do you decide when to get a pair of boots?

    A. When I’ve saved money in my Boot Fund and see something I like. I never carry a balance on credit cards and always pay my bills in full, so after bills are paid, I put some money aside in a Boot Fund (savings account) and wait until I have enough to get what I want.

    Q. What’s the most you have paid for a pair of boots?

    A. $600.00 (Custom Dehners)

    Q. Other than gifts, what’s the least you have paid for a pair of boots?

    A. About $40 from an eBay auction. About $100 for a new pair from a store or internet site featuring a sale.

    Q. What turns you on about boots?

    A. How they look, the height of the shaft, the sound they make when I walk in them, how they feel on my legs when I wear them, and how they feel on my ...

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